Maybe I’m not the best guy to take dating advice from. I have been told I am a good boyfriend but haven’t been in a serious relationship in God knows how long. I do date pretty regularly but have a difficult time saying yes to anything long-term. Some women I date are amazing people and would probably make outstanding girlfriends. I just feel that I have a lot going on in my life and a relationship would complicate things tremendously. That being said here’s How I believe a woman should handle a guy like me. We all know there are a ton of us out there.
1. Be honest and up front with yourself about what you are looking for in a relationship. If a boy says something like, “I just really enjoy dating.” or, “I would make a terrible boyfriend right now.” No matter how much you like him, if you are looking for a boyfriend, this is definitely not the guy. He’s making an attempt to tell you he likes you a lot but doesn’t want to be exclusive.
2. Using sex to get close to a guy like me isn’t smart. Sex is a gift and not a bartering tool. Don’t try to negotiate your way into his life by using sex. The whole “maybe if I sleep with him he’ll get the point” thing never works. If you can’t get as close to him as you need to bewithout sex he doesn’t deserve the happy satisfaction of the proverbial “happy ending.” I say” happy ending” because if you use it for the wrong reasons that’s exactly the result you’ll get.
3. Guys like us have a place in most single women’s life. Make sure you’re as honest about that spot as we are.
I hope I helped a little. Sometimes I am not as honest with myself about how I feel in my relationships and was hoping maybe if I share it with the world it’ll help me sort out some of it. Happy hunting my friends.
Do you want to help me come up with ways Maura can get this guy to be her boyfriend? It’s so cute. Jerome and I told her to make him Christmas cookies!
By: Lori on December 22, 2009
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